Background: I come from a tiny country which bans gay activity. And gays are discriminated here.
To me the first time was the greatest feeling ever, but I had to keep it quiet, and only a few know about me yet today, but how it would feel to you nobody can say.
I'd strongly suggest moving, perhaps to the USA if you don't mind limited rights, but overall legality, or if you want full legal rights the best place would probably be the Netherlands - they have full equal rights marriage for same sex couples, as well as civil unions for polygamy. The only problem there is for lesbian couples who want to adopt theres a little bit of a problem, though I'm not exactly sure what it is. I wish you the best of luck either way...
In all countries that ban gay sex, there's a lot of gay sex. That's why they had to pass a law. So you're bound to meet others in your position, you just need to find out where. The Spartacus directory has gay places to meet all over the world.