When we married 3 years ago, my husband and I planned a modest honeymoon to a beach town in the next state. Unfortunately, my husband's grandfather was extremely ill at the time of the wedding. As we packed to leave the morning after the wedding, we received word that he had passed away. So we did not get the chance to go away. And the hotel refused to honor our request for a refund on the honeymoon package.

We made a vow to each other to have honeymoon A.S.A.P. For three years, we have scrimped and saved to afford a trip to New Orleans, where we met during Mardi Gras in college. This seemed like the year we'd go since we are planning to have a baby next year and won't really be able to get away so easily or justify an extravagant vacation. Now, my husband wants to give all our honeymoon savings to his brother "Dwayne" who is trying to save yet another failed business. My husband argues that we aren't newlyweds anymore. I think it's not only unfair, but throwing good money after bad. Dwayne has wasted $90,000 in get rich schemes and businesses that never get off the ground. If he doesn't get the money from us, he'll "borrow" it from my mother-in-law (which is why my husband wants to be the one to make the loan. Which I know we'll never see again.)

Am I being unreasonable?