A blowjob is always a great idea! But seriously, he needs to take you into consideration too. You both have needs. It sucks when one person is always expected to please the other, but the other person doesn't want to reciprocate. My wife is bad about this. She always wants me to eat her pussy, eat her ass, fuck her doggie style, etc, etc...But when I want a "Good" blowjob, she will suck me off enough to make me cum as fast as she can, but WILL NOT SWALLOW. Just when I'm almost there she stops sucking, and strokes me to orgasm. Its just not the same.
BJ is a great break through for sex in your situation. You may also tease and suck his nips to arouse him more till he searches for your boobs...
I found myself a sex partner and friend because my wife treats me just like your husband does you. She wants it with little foreplay and almost gives me no attention. While I do cum every time I miss the foreplay and and sometimes I can't get hard without it. She gets upset if I jack myself to get hard asking if she isn't enough. The truth is things don't work like they used to, and I've tried to tell here as much. While I can still get very hard whenever I masturbate, if there is no foreplay I might only be about 80%. Who would have thought it would be the woman who wants it fast and simple. UGH My GF loves to play for hours or however long we have, but the problem is she wants me more and more. I'm thinking I am going to have to call it quits before she leaves her husband and messes up my marriage and family.