I am now 32, single. In high school and college I was popular enough and had several boyfriends, and was intimate with a couple of guys in college. I went into my job fully intent on developing a career. My job is back office in Finance and the company's Finance and Accounting staff is mostly female except for the big bosses. Suffice to say there are no eligible bachelors at work.

My social life has been primarily with other single women, including holidays. I am not comfortable being hit on by random strangers and have never subscribed to getting lucky. To summarize I have not had sex in ten years. I am not unattractive, I am generally in shape, educated, I have traveled for work and pleasure, I follow the arts, self supporting, and single. The last man who hit on me was a divorced fifty year old I met at a conference.

All I want is a man who is self supporting, interesting, respectful, secure enough to do his laundry, I am not a maid, educated and worldly. I may have to settle for divorced but I prefer no children with another woman. Why are my expectations bad? I am told that I am a good package but not 26. Men want the perfect woman, under 25, never married and pure as the driven snow.

I am not the nurturing type, I am honest and will not mess around.

Thanks for letting me blow off steam, I fear getting older and alone, I admit to that. By now I expected to be married with two kids, not desperate.