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Anything Goes
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Sorry. I'm not all about complaining. I just don't have anyone to talk to about this. Hence, I'm on here. Here's my deal:
My husband and I have been together for about 5 years now. Our sex life sucks right now. It will get better. He just lately has a fascination with my behind. He very much enjoys giving me a rim job. I like it just fine. That is not the problem. The problem is he does that and then gets to intercourse. It use to be that he would give cunnilingus, which would get me off, and then go to intercourse. The original arrangement was fine, because he doesn't last that long in the sack. The past two times we have had sex, he has done the anal and screw. I don't get off. I am starting to wonder why I even bother. When I attempt to talk to him about it, he starts with the, "I feel bad," and proceeds to feel sorry for himself instead. He has a very low self esteem. Which, in turn, makes me have to comfort him because I don't want him getting depressed. This, in turn, is making my sex drive (which could rival most men) virtually non-existent. This depresses me very much. Also, last night, when I wanted some, he told me that he was too tired.
To make things even better...I have a female roommate that I have fun with from time to time. Now, my husband knows and is okay with it. In fact, he plays as well. Well, she has been saying for the past couple of weeks that she was going to pleasure me. In fact, on a few different occasions, I was promised pleasure later those nights. It never happened. When she promised me tonight, I was of the opinion "I'll believe it when I see it". She actually did it this time. What a waste. She went down (very well, mind you), but only lasted a few (we are talking 3-4 minutes TOPS) and told me her neck was tired. Now, I can get off in that time, but she is the type to get you very close, back off, and repeat until I orgasm. Normally, it's great. Well, it would have been, anyway. I didn't get off then, either. I will also tell you that I made sure she had a major orgasm last time I went down on her.
So, in the past month or so, I have had sex 3 times and not gotten off once. It's very depressing. I can't even masturbate as it just reminds me of what I'm missing. I'm wanting so bad to find a man on the side, but I can't do it. I can't cheat on him. Even if I had his permission (which I can get), I can't do it.
When I try to talk to either of them about it, they just feel bad. I really don't know what to do. Up until this point in my adult life (I am 26), sex has been a major focus point. I feel like the "unfulfilled woman" What do you fine folks suggest? Please know this is a real problem for me and I would appreciate only real answers.
Thanks for your time.
My husband and I have been together for about 5 years now. Our sex life sucks right now. It will get better. He just lately has a fascination with my behind. He very much enjoys giving me a rim job. I like it just fine. That is not the problem. The problem is he does that and then gets to intercourse. It use to be that he would give cunnilingus, which would get me off, and then go to intercourse. The original arrangement was fine, because he doesn't last that long in the sack. The past two times we have had sex, he has done the anal and screw. I don't get off. I am starting to wonder why I even bother. When I attempt to talk to him about it, he starts with the, "I feel bad," and proceeds to feel sorry for himself instead. He has a very low self esteem. Which, in turn, makes me have to comfort him because I don't want him getting depressed. This, in turn, is making my sex drive (which could rival most men) virtually non-existent. This depresses me very much. Also, last night, when I wanted some, he told me that he was too tired.
To make things even better...I have a female roommate that I have fun with from time to time. Now, my husband knows and is okay with it. In fact, he plays as well. Well, she has been saying for the past couple of weeks that she was going to pleasure me. In fact, on a few different occasions, I was promised pleasure later those nights. It never happened. When she promised me tonight, I was of the opinion "I'll believe it when I see it". She actually did it this time. What a waste. She went down (very well, mind you), but only lasted a few (we are talking 3-4 minutes TOPS) and told me her neck was tired. Now, I can get off in that time, but she is the type to get you very close, back off, and repeat until I orgasm. Normally, it's great. Well, it would have been, anyway. I didn't get off then, either. I will also tell you that I made sure she had a major orgasm last time I went down on her.
So, in the past month or so, I have had sex 3 times and not gotten off once. It's very depressing. I can't even masturbate as it just reminds me of what I'm missing. I'm wanting so bad to find a man on the side, but I can't do it. I can't cheat on him. Even if I had his permission (which I can get), I can't do it.
When I try to talk to either of them about it, they just feel bad. I really don't know what to do. Up until this point in my adult life (I am 26), sex has been a major focus point. I feel like the "unfulfilled woman" What do you fine folks suggest? Please know this is a real problem for me and I would appreciate only real answers.
Thanks for your time.
