I have a child out of wedlock with a married man. His wife hated me until the baby came then she did a 180 and wants BFF and joint motherhood, for both my child and hers. The argument is that the children need a father and not part time. I agree about the father thing and have agreed to make it work.

Here is the problem in a nutshell, watching him walk his wife to her room, leaving me with cleaning up, getting all three kids to bed, setting the breakfast table, folding laundry, while she has her night makes my jealous, even if tomorrow night it is flip flopped and she cleans up, puts the kids to bed, sets the breakfast table and finishes the laundry and I get my night.

Because it is the right thing for the children, because we are being pragmatic, because we agreed, doesn't mean you don't get jealous. Ditto for her.