My husband and I dated 4 years. We got married after we started our careers. We have our family and in a routine life. Our sex life is ok or maybe good. My weakness is athletic well built men. My husband is not. This isn't a constant thing I do, but maybe 2 or 3 times a year. I don't like flirts. When I'm around my lust type I like to charm them into bed. It really isn't a hard to get a man to have sex. Some like to use condoms. Some like to pull out. Some don't even ask and climax inside me. I leave the fling occasion usually well used and satisfied. I don't want a lover, just a fling on occasions. I enjoy getting a hunk out of his control and into my control. My favorite is to go to a motel and really have hard working sex. I know I'm getting older and may not get guys charmed much longer. I have had sex with college guys 15 years younger. Perhaps my favorite now when I get the opportunity. If a spouse wants to have a fling I believe in not getting a lover and not often. After a fling, sex with my husband is more energized by myself. It is almost like I have a glow that my husband enjoys. I feel that I'm a good wife and mother with an add on personality.