I hope I don't get to wordy. I am Cuban American from both mother and father. I had lots of pressure to marry a Cuban boy. I married a white boy I met in college. He is successful in his own right, his family is multigenerational college educated. I am the first non white, non Anglo spouse.

My in laws look down on me. My parents don't accept him. My kids are 'mixed', but you will always think of them as Anglo white, and their name is Anglo not Hispanic. My husband is several times better off than anyone in my family, I don't need to work, I am a soccer Mom and my kids are enrolled in a top level private school. My brothers married local non college educated wives and their wives work, one for her family's restaurant and my other sister in law works as a secretary for a realtor. Their kids go to public school.

All my life I heard of improving our race, you can only do that by marrying white. That is what I did. That is everyone's dream. My kids will not have to live like we did. I got a scholarship and I have a college degree, a step up in marriage, my kids are starting from a higher place, they are white and their mother is not a maid and their father is not a restaurant manager. So how did I do bad? My in-laws may have preferred a nice white girl but he didn't do bad, I have a college degree, I am a good mother and I am a good wife. I did not marry him for his money. No one would marry a boy for his money to be treated like I am treated by my mother in law.