My husband started pestering me about this girl that works for him. She is nice, and well behaved, but she has gotten under his skin. His whole life is about her now. I have invited her over for dinner, a young girl with two older people, could not have been fun for her. We have invited her to our river house, fun for us, but is it fun for her to hang out with two older people?

We had her over for dinner, it got late, like one a.m. I told my husband I didn't think it was wise to let her go home alone and to offer to drive her and pick her up in the morning for her car. After talking with her we decided, we meaning she and I, that she should just spend the night. I have a guest room, and I maintain a stock of emergency toiletries, and she was ok with borrowing one my night shirts.

There is no secret to cover up here, I know because he has told me that they have slept together. We are not young, we have been married 32 years. If she is in love with him, and I don't pretend to be able to explain why a 27 year old falls in love with a 62 year old man, but he fell in love with her and she sure wants to be in love with him.

He is laying in bed, I decided to ask her if she wanted to be in bed with him? After a short silence she said she would. I went thru the whole cheating thing with her, and her doing it behind my back. After my little speech I walked back to the room with her and told him I was giving her my place that night, one night only and I told her that she was not to interpret that I was giving him to her, it was for that night only.

I don't know if what is happening is good or bad. She is pretty shy about all this, but she knows that it is now out in the open and there is not going to be any side visits to some motel. If she wants to sleep with him, and I mean if she is open to this, I expect her to sleep with him right here where I can see her face to face and she can see me face to face and she sleeps in my bed and she gets permission first. If she is going to sleep with him, then she should have to ask permission. Those are my conditions.

If she wants an open, out and out permanent place with him, we can arrange that. I don't mean to tell her that every single time that he calls for her she has to come and ask permission. I just want her to have my permission first, if her life is to be with him, then she should ask for that permission.

What I want and what I think I am owed, is that she stand up and she says that she is here to stay. I want to have her here in the morning when I am getting my day started and I want her to be here in the evening when we are putting the day away. I should be able to enjoy the relationship with her too.