I have two close friends in my life. One is a lesbian Hispanic woman. And one is a Hispanic married woman. I am anglo, pretty much the definition of a WASP. I am flattered and uplifted by my lesbian friend. But I am madly in love with my married friend.

A gay person in my life and I have to fall in love with the one non gay person in my life. If I could only be with her like I am with my lesbian friend my life would be perfect. If I could only be in love with my lesbian friend like I am with my married friend, my lesbian friend's life would be perfect.

This is a triangle with ends that don't match up.