I posted this somewhere else, but no comments/feedback were allowed, so I'm posting it here so someone might help by telling me what I should do...

Okay... I'm a 16 year-old asian male. I was an orphan until I was adopted by an Australian couple (I'm currently living in Australia). When I was 7, my mother died. Not long after, my dad started to touch me, inappropriately. Over the years he made me do a lot of different things, ranging from performing oral to the more kinkier things... When I was 11, he fucked me for the first time. Before that, he had fingered me and stuck toys and stuff in my ass, but it still hurt. He's very well endowed (almost 10 inches) so it didn't really go in the first time. It actually took a while (about a month or 2 to go in completely) and was very painful. My ass burnt like hell for months... but I got use to it after a while.

It's now been about 6 years since we started to have sex. He treats me like I'm his little boyfriend, which I find extremely weird and creepy, yet it's also nice because he shows me a lot of affection - as if I am his little boyfriend. My dad's bisexual, and I happen to be gay. He's currently 46. I'm not openly gay, and my friend's don't know about my relationship with my dad. The only other people who know about me and my dad, are some of his friends (about 4, though I'm not sure who else he has told). Once in a while (maybe 4 or 5 times a year) my dad makes me blow them. Some of them want to fuck me, but my dad says that my asshole is only for him... LOL.

Anyway, I want to tell my dad that this relationship between us is not gonna work out because I want to be with someone my own age, and obviously someone who's NOT my dad. He's very agressive towards me sometimes, and he enjoys spanking me when I get into trouble. I'm scared that he'll hit me when I tell him that I only want him to be my dad :( I hope he would understand. I often lock myself in the bathroom to cry, because I usually don't get any privacy in my bedroom. He really likes to sneak in my room in the middle of the night to fuck me while I'm asleep. I've repeatly told him to stop it, but he refuses. He doesn't care if I get tired in the morning and be late for school. I really wished that I could have had a 'normal' relationship with my dad... We are very close and we are basically best friends because we know so much about each other (we don't hide much/have any secrets). But I wonder if I could have had are similar relationship with him without all the sex and stuff. If he never did what he did, would we be as close? I don't know... I really just want us to start bonding like other fathers and sons. I wouldn't mind if we go fishing, camping or other 'normal' things that other people do. I've told him before but he never understands. He is extremely controlling of my life and he makes all my decisions for me. He's also very moody. One moment he's all nice and stuff with me, the next he's being unreasonable and screaming/hitting me. I don't get it. He also has a high sex drive (LOL, is that what it's called?), and he usually fucks me at least once a day - sometimes up to 3 or 4 times a day. I've gotten to a point where he just slides in with ease and my hole is just very loose (is that normal?). I'm just glad I can think this whole situation off my back. I've been hiding it for years and I'm embarrassing to tell anyone. So it's good to be able to blurt it out here! I'm just a bit sick and tired that he thinks that this relationship will last forever? He doesn't realise that I'm getting older, and he really can't expect me to be living with him as his boyfriend even when I'm 20 or even 30. He's so dilusional!

What should I do now? Sit him down and tell him how I really feel about the whole thing? Or should I start making rules, like limiting sex? Please don't tell me to report this to some child protective place, cause I really don't want my dad to get into any trouble...
The whole situation is getting me so stressed out! I can't focus on school work and exams are coming up... I just can't deal with it all! And no, I don't want to talk to a school counseller or psychiatrist... should I?
I just want everyone to find out. I don't know what I'll do if my friends find out. What will they think of me? (remember I'm in the closet too, so be lovers with my dad would make it even worse if this blows out)
OK, I think I wrote too much!! Hope the length doesn't bore anyone, cause I really want to read some replies.
Please help :)